Where Did The BEING GAME Come From?

The BEING GAME is the playful creation of Kathy Vitello and myself. Early on in our courtship, we would call each other every morning and during our conversations we would ask the question, “What are you up to today and who are you going to BE?”
For almost a year, we chose ways of BEING, words such as “inspiring,” “confident,” “healthy,” “loving,” “powerful,” and “understanding” to live into that day. We shared our choices with each other and wrote them down. We had a lot of fun as we explored our relationship and got to know each other better. As we supported each other in staying on track with who we said we would BE each day, we became the first BEING BUDDIES.

We noticed that during the day, things often would not go as planned, or life’s chaos would creep in. We would then recall the BEING words we declared for ourselves or remind each other of the words we picked. By re-choosing who we wanted to BE that day, we would get back in focus. We were then able to have the day that we chose, rather than be victims of the circumstances in our lives. What occurred next was almost miraculous. The events of the day seemed to change, or perhaps they didn’t, but our experience of life certainly did. That was the miracle. We noticed that our experiences could shift to be more consistent with our dreams as we declared who we chose to BE. In sharing what we discovered with others, The BEING GAME was born.

The BEING GAME book consists of quotations, questions, and excerpts from our lives and the lives of others. When you play The BEING GAME, you create a possibility that you may find a word, a phrase, an answer, a question, or an insight that will transform how you are BEING. In reading, we hope there will be more questions for you than answers. There is power in having questions.